A Friend in Need

There are two purpose for this post. First, a friend is in desperate need of prayers. I haven’t asked her permission to share this info here so I’m not going to share real personal details. Second, even though our medical system is fantastic, there are cracks and we all need to be aware of the inner voice that speaks to us.

Let’s call my friend Pinky! Remember . . Pinky from earlier posts? There’s a connection! Pinky is really a very good friend of a very good friend and most of my info has come through my friend and not directly from Pinky so while I may not have everything 100% right, it’s real close.

A couple of years ago, Pinky found a lump in her breast. She went to the doctor, who is the same doctor I used when I had benign lumps removed 20+ years ago. He’s a great doctor and I would still use him. He did a needle biopsy which came back ok. The more Pinky thought about it, the more she wanted the lump “outta there”. After much prodding, the doctor removed the lump and it was malignant. They did the lumpectomy and she had radiation for sure and chemo too I think. She ultimately received a clean bill of health.

Some time last year, her breast began to do strange things. It got real hard and felt hot. The doctor explained it as having something to do with scar tissue. She had a mammogram which was fine. After a while, a weird spot appeared on her breast. She went to a different doctor. She ended up having more tests . . some kind of scan . . and it was determined she had Inflammatory Breast Cancer. If you aren’t familiar with this type cancer . . read about it here and do more research. I’ve heard that many doctors aren’t up on it and it doesn’t usually show up on a mammogram. They did chemo (or radiation . . I can’t remember) to reduce the mass and then removed the breast. This was all within the last six months. When I was in town the end of October, she had no hair but was feeling good and was happy. I asked her “what next?” because I didn’t know if she had more treatments to go through. I’ll never forget her response . . I’m going to live the rest of my life and enjoy each day of it! Not happening!!

A few weeks ago, there were more problems with the breast. She saw the doctor this week and the report was not good. It’s very bad! My heart truly breaks for her. I cannot imagine going through what she’s already gone through and getting the report she received and facing what she’s facing.

If you’re so inclined, please pray for my friend. She needs strength to fight this fight.

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    Gina says

    Please tell your friend that both my mother and I will be praying for her. My mother had breast cancer and she was one of the lucky ones who made a complete recovery.

    love and hugs xxx

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    Vicky says

    Prayers being offered for Pinky. Please let us know how she’s doing. And thank you for the information!

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    Cheryl M. says

    Prayers goes up for Pinky. Thanks for the information about this type of cancer. Sometimes the best help a friend can give is advice on something that others are experiencing and others don’t know.
    Cheryl M.

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    judy says

    What a moving story. She will be in my prayers. I agree, everyone who has struggled against cancer should embrace their days and be happy just because. This is a great story, thanks for sharing! I am a community ambassador with Pantene Beautiful Lengths. Together we are working to empower women battling cancer and help them regain their confidence. Our goal is to collect 1 million inches of hair so that we may provide wigs to women who would otherwise be unable to afford them. Please help support this amazing cause… we could use every inch of hair we can get! If you would like to donate or get more information, please visit this site: http://www.beautifullengths.com

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    Jeanne says

    My prayers will also include your friend. Such a horrid disease. Please don’t give up. Miracles do happen.

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    Perry says

    That is frightening Judy. I will certainly pray for your friend. I went to the website you linked to and read the info there. As a breast cancer survivor it is important to know everything you can about any form of this disease. Thank you for this posting.

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    Bingo~Bonnie says

    Prayers for your friend “Pinky” being said here in Texas. I’m so glad you shared this with all of us….never hurts to ask for help when it comes to prayer! ~Bonnie

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    Mary says

    I’ll say some prayers for your friend. One of the HeartStrings quilts I made was given to a young woman with Inflammatory Breast Cancer. I don’t think there’s enough information out there on this type of breast cancer.

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    Annie says

    Thank you , Judy for the site on IBC. Wow, that is a scary disease and one we should know about.

    I hope all doctors become more aware of it and use better diagnostic tools for discovery of this frightful cancer.

    Keeping your friend in my thoughts.


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    mamaspark says

    Done and done. I just lost one of my quilting church ladies to the same. She will be in my prayers.

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    Kathie says

    I like the rose one too!
    especially since the quilt is pink!
    I am really bad at naming quilts too!
    had to laugh reading you are as well.

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    Mrs. Goodneedle says

    Fervent prayers for Pinky; prayers for strength and courage for her and her family and friends as they face this battle head on.

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    Passionate Quilter says

    Oh Judy–I’m so sorry for your friend–I’ve read about the Inflammatory Breast Disease–and it’s not a good thing. I’ll keep Pinky in my prayers.