Comments on: Customs & Rules http://www.patchworktimes.com/2008/08/27/customs-rules/ Sharing the Good Life Thu, 09 Feb 2012 07:20:57 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Carole Meier http://www.patchworktimes.com/2008/08/27/customs-rules/#comment-10059 Carole Meier Sun, 31 Aug 2008 17:55:36 +0000 http://www.patchworktimes.com/?p=1636#comment-10059 I've never really done anything because "it's the way it's always been done". Well, perhaps I just haven't given it any thought since it's probably an "auto Pilot" thing. Dinners are important. I like sitting down as a family and catching up on my dd's life. Yea, and my dh too! I most always have candles going at dinner. It's a ritual for me, it sets the mood to "we've got time to listen and be together". Saying grace is another ritual as well as making a toast prior to digging in! As important as rituals are, they are a dying breed! I've come to the conclusion that life is as busy as you allow it to be. I find many people love to use that phrase "I'm too busy!" Sad! Many of my dd's friends are taken aback when they have dinner with us. Their dinner is usually in front of the tv while the parents are busy doing something else. As for dropping in, Judy no need for you to call, come on over! I don't mind "drop ins" as long as it's not an everyday habbit! ;o) Great thinking post! Thanks! I’ve never really done anything because “it’s the way it’s always been done”. Well, perhaps I just haven’t given it any thought since it’s probably an “auto Pilot” thing. Dinners are important. I like sitting down as a family and catching up on my dd’s life. Yea, and my dh too! I most always have candles going at dinner. It’s a ritual for me, it sets the mood to “we’ve got time to listen and be together”. Saying grace is another ritual as well as making a toast prior to digging in! As important as rituals are, they are a dying breed! I’ve come to the conclusion that life is as busy as you allow it to be. I find many people love to use that phrase “I’m too busy!” Sad! Many of my dd’s friends are taken aback when they have dinner with us. Their dinner is usually in front of the tv while the parents are busy doing something else. As for dropping in, Judy no need for you to call, come on over! I don’t mind “drop ins” as long as it’s not an everyday habbit! ;o) Great thinking post! Thanks!

]]> By: mawbell http://www.patchworktimes.com/2008/08/27/customs-rules/#comment-9953 mawbell Fri, 29 Aug 2008 03:20:43 +0000 http://www.patchworktimes.com/?p=1636#comment-9953 I'll bet you are wishing that state rep had a personal policy of calling before dropping in, huh? I’ll bet you are wishing that state rep had a personal policy of calling before dropping in, huh?

]]> By: Nancy W. http://www.patchworktimes.com/2008/08/27/customs-rules/#comment-9945 Nancy W. Thu, 28 Aug 2008 13:01:50 +0000 http://www.patchworktimes.com/?p=1636#comment-9945 I've been thinking alot about this post. As wonderful as technology is, I think phones and computers have really isolated us in some ways. When I was growing up people sometimes called but usually they just dropped in. For me, as a kid this was great as there was always something going on. People seem to "visit" alot more back then. But, my mother was always up and dressed and our house was never messy. So, while I miss the way people used to drop in, I really love my soft baggy cotton tee shirts (and no bra) and if I decide to sit at my machine with my coffee and piece instead of putting the dishes in the dishwasher that's OK. I like to think my mother would be a little envious. I’ve been thinking alot about this post. As wonderful as technology is, I think phones and computers have really isolated us in some ways. When I was growing up people sometimes called but usually they just dropped in. For me, as a kid this was great as there was always something going on. People seem to “visit” alot more back then. But, my mother was always up and dressed and our house was never messy. So, while I miss the way people used to drop in, I really love my soft baggy cotton tee shirts (and no bra) and if I decide to sit at my machine with my coffee and piece instead of putting the dishes in the dishwasher that’s OK. I like to think my mother would be a little envious.

]]> By: Linda H http://www.patchworktimes.com/2008/08/27/customs-rules/#comment-9944 Linda H Thu, 28 Aug 2008 05:09:56 +0000 http://www.patchworktimes.com/?p=1636#comment-9944 Judy, I was surprised that the Representative did not call before coming --both for his convenience as well as yours. I was impressed that he came at all --and with answers to your concerns. I prefer a heads up before people call, but I'm happy to see them either way. Of course, my life as a retiree is less hectic now, so that makes a difference. We have always had breakfast and dinner together as a family. It has changed a bit now, in that DH often is up quite early because he can't sleep. He fixes himself some breakfast and then has a cup of coffee when I eat. Dinner together (between 6:30 and 7:30) is always special whether it is leftovers or roast beef. DH lights a candle and puts in a cd. He has done this for years. When I was growing up, no one spoke during the meal. Strange! While our children were at home, we did the usual catch up, but then DH led the conversation into interesting subjects. When the table was cleared, he led us in Bible reading and prayer. It was a great family time. As empty nesters, we have our Bible and prayer time after breakfast. If I could change anything, it would be to live closer to our children and their families. As it is, we are a continent apart --too far. Some day! Judy, I was surprised that the Representative did not call before coming –both for his convenience as well as yours. I was impressed that he came at all –and with answers to your concerns. I prefer a heads up before people call, but I’m happy to see them either way. Of course, my life as a retiree is less hectic now, so that makes a difference.
We have always had breakfast and dinner together as a family. It has changed a bit now, in that DH often is up quite early because he can’t sleep. He fixes himself some breakfast and then has a cup of coffee when I eat. Dinner together (between 6:30 and 7:30) is always special whether it is leftovers or roast beef. DH lights a candle and puts in a cd. He has done this for years. When I was growing up, no one spoke during the meal. Strange! While our children were at home, we did the usual catch up, but then DH led the conversation into interesting subjects. When the table was cleared, he led us in Bible reading and prayer. It was a great family time. As empty nesters, we have our Bible and prayer time after breakfast.
If I could change anything, it would be to live closer to our children and their families. As it is, we are a continent apart –too far. Some day!

]]> By: Lori http://www.patchworktimes.com/2008/08/27/customs-rules/#comment-9942 Lori Thu, 28 Aug 2008 02:43:53 +0000 http://www.patchworktimes.com/?p=1636#comment-9942 Judy-- I get caught in pj's without my bra!~ And my house is messy. But, after losing several people in my life I have decided I would rather see them no matter what, and I have lots of people who drop in spur of the moment. Meals, yes it's nice to eat together, and often I call friends and relatives to come and eat with DH and I. But a regular time, no, because it's only DH and I, and he works overnites. Judy– I get caught in pj’s without my bra!~ And my house is messy. But, after losing several people in my life I have decided I would rather see them no matter what, and I have lots of people who drop in spur of the moment.

Meals, yes it’s nice to eat together, and often I call friends and relatives to come and eat with DH and I. But a regular time, no, because it’s only DH and I, and he works overnites.

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