Thank you so much to every one of you who commented and/or emailed me about the blog issues. Through the various emails, a couple of thoughts popped into my head that I pondered as I lay in bed this morning trying to decide if today was a good day to stay in bed all day or get up and get busy.
One thing is that some feel blogs are a forum for debate. Do I expect everyone to agree with me on every issue? Definitely NOT! Vince and I do not agree on every issue and I love him to death! I don’t even agree with myself 100% of the time. (That issue of getting out of bed this morning . . still not sure I made the right decision on that one.) But, I do not consider my blog as a debate forum. I’m not asking for you to agree or disagree or comment. If you choose to comment, fine . . I love comments. If you disagree, do it nicely! You’re not going to change my mind on most issues. Do not put words into my mouth. Read what I wrote and comment on what I wrote . . not on what you think I’m really thinking but didn’t say.
There are all kinds of forums that are there specifically for debate type discussions. My blog is not one of them!
I was thinking about this analogy about the magazine issue. Suppose we pay Joe to cut our grass and Joe requires us to pay for the entire summer before May 1 in order to have a spot on his grass cutting schedule. My neighbor is married to Joe’s wife’s brother’s neighbor’s cousin and she hears that Joe is maybe going out of business . . maybe not but rumor has it that he isn’t going to be cutting grass this summer but he’s still asking people to pay for the entire summer. Does my neighbor mention to me what she’s heard or does she mind her own business and not say a word? Suppose she says nothing and I pay Joe for the entire summer and he never shows up the first time to cut my grass. Then she says to me “wellllll, I heard he might not be cutting grass this summer but didn’t feel I should mention it to you because I didn’t know for sure!” Or, suppose she mentions it and I say to Joe “You know, Joe! I heard you might be going out of business and I’d love to have you continue cutting my lawn but for this summer, it’s going to be pay as you go. You cut the grass, I’ll have cash for you when you finish each day.”
Yes, some of you would just pay Joe and hope for the best. Some of you would not. Knowledge is power. I had known about the magazine company for weeks but until it was actually in writing on the internet on what appeared to be a reputable site, I didn’t mention it here.
Second thing is comments. I assume that every comment left on my blog is left to what I’ve written. Please do not leave comments to comments! I am in the “business” of quilting. What someone reads on my blog could affect me or those I represent. If I were talking about great quilt teachers from whom I’ve taken classes and someone leaves a comment that Suzie Quilter is the WORST teacher she’s ever had and then 10 more leave comments about what a rotten teacher Suzie Quilter is . . you know what people remember? Judy Laquidara said Suzie Quilter was a rotten teacher, which is not what I said! I can’t be on the blog 24/7. Yes, you think I am and Vince thinks I am but I am not. I can’t always nip problems in the bud but if there’s a problem comment or a controversial comment, I’ll deal with it when I see it. Please do not perpetuate a problem! And, if you see a problem comment, or a comment you perceive as a problem, you’re welcome to email me. There have been a few times when I read comments and thought . . that was kinda snippy but I just let it go. Then I’d get a dozen or so emails from people wondering if the comment had hurt my feelings . . . then I may respond on the blog, I may delete the comment or I may just let it go. You are always welcome to write me privately to discuss issues or state your vehement disagreement with me. I’m not much of a debater. I think about my positions and much of what I believe is what my parents and their parents believed. Chad has most of the same beliefs we hold. Our beliefs have “evolved” through the years but some of our basic principles have not. Most of the time, you’re not going to change my mind and I’m not going to change your mind. Who’s right? Who’s wrong? Time will tell. We’ll probably all leave this earth thinking we were right. Who cares at that point?
Third thing is “no comments”. On the few occasions that I write a post and set it to where no comments can be left, that means I do not want comments! You’re welcome to write me privately but please do not go off to a totally irrelevant post and leave a comment. The reason I use no comments is that I do not want a raging debate on the blog and when I see a post may be a potential for those type comments, I invoke the “no comments” option. It isn’t because I can’t take anyone disagreeing with me or because I think I’m always right, it’s simply that I don’t want to see arguing and bickering between comments on my blog.
Thank you very much for respecting my right to write what I wish on my blog and for accepting that you have the power to move on; my views are not being imposed upon anyone . . you read it because you have chosen to do so.