Strike 4

There are no words I can write to explain how I feel right now.  I don’t even know how I feel right now.  This has to be the most unbelievable chain of events ever.

Vince comes home tomorrow.  We had so hoped, and thought it would happen, to have something in the works while he was gone so we could be that much closer to having a house not long after we get there but at this point . . I just don’t even know what to do, what to say or what to think.


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    Lizzy Hentze says

    Oh Judy, I’m so sorry that this is happening. I really have no suggestions because if it were me, I think I would have given up talking/blogging about this a long time ago as it makes you go over the upsets again and again. Just know that all your loyal, loving blogland friends are there with you in spirit, if not in body. Just BREATHE!
    Hugs from Down Under

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    I’m really am sorry to hear about all you are going through, I cannot even imagine.

    I do believe that it will be all worth the wait in the end and you will have the perfect house for your needs.

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    Cindy in NC says

    Oh no! What happened? I can’t believe all the heartache you’ve had to endure.

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    Frankie says

    Judy, I’m so sorry! I’m sending BIG hugs your way and my prayers too. I just know that the right house is out there for you.

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    Cindy says

    You and I seem to have some common ground regarding our housing situations. I’ve been trying for over a year to find more affordable housing for my family and I to rent. Because of my personal circumstances I’ve decided to not buy. I don’t want to go down that road again. I’d like to say hang in there, something will work out….but … well … I’m not going to say it.

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    sorry to hear this for you – how awful – what went wrong, with a contract signed I thought for sure that was a good sign and that all would be well. I don’t know what to say. I hope maybe this town of Comanche has some rentals for you to look at least when you get there seeing as Brownwood had none.

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    What is going on there?! There are so many house all over this country available how can things be so different there? Surreal! So sorry to hear this, hope thing will turn around. SOON!

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    Hugs to you and Vince – Perhaps you should stop telling us about these contracts, just in case it is jinxing it somehow. Just show us the pictures as you are walking into the new place!

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    Lynne in Hawaii says

    Ouch! That sucks. Big Time sucketh. Maybe they would let you ‘rent’ while you are looking for a house?

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    You don’t seem like the kind of person to use profanity but there is scientific evidence that spewing profanity at a time like this really does help. That and a good stiff cocktail, or 3.

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    so sorry, hugs to you. Wish I could be there to help you look for your dream house. I love looking at houses, especially when they aren’t mine. Glad you and Vince get to be together soon.

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    Marla says

    OMG! I am so sorry! I thought this one was a done deal! I don’t know what to say other than hugs going your way.

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    Julia says

    Oh, Judy, words can just not express how sorry I am about this. What happened? Sending you hugs, prayers and lots of support. (((hugs)))

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    I simply cannot express how sorry I am you are having such a hard time finding a house. I thought for sure you had one this time. Moving is such a hard thing on all levels(we had to move twice in one year just a few years ago), but to not know where you will be living when you arrive is just plain a nightmare. I sending you good thoughts and hopes. Someday this will all be over, but I really don’t think you will ever forget it!

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    Judy – I’m wishing the very best for you. I know that it feels as though you’ve had the rug pulled out from under your feet. Your nature does not make flying by the seat of your pants a comfortable thing. I’m praying an even better house pops up in the next few days. Hugs.

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    Marky says

    How can this be?! We are all sharing in your disappointment. What you’ve been through is just unbelievable! More prayers that joy will come soon.

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    Penny says

    Oh Judy, not another one lost. I’d be on tranquilizers by now. I’m so sorry. Go visit your mother and get away from there. You need a break from all of this. You’ve been such a brave trooper. I hope things turn around soon.

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    quilterbee says

    I’m sorry, Judy. Can Vince come back to his job where you are at because he can’t find a place for his family to live in TX. Surely the company doesn’t expect you to move when you have nowhere to go.

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    Hi Judy – I know how hard it is. Moving really stinks sometimes! Our last move was pretty scary – we hadn’t sold our house before we loaded the truck & trailer and all our kids, hadn’t even had any real offers. Had NO idea where all the money was going to appear from….and two nights before we were driving away I bullied the real estate agent into raising the price of the house (she did NOT want to…she’d picked the price to begin with) and the next night as we were heading out to our going away dinner with family, the agent called with a full-price offer and we closed 3 weeks later to a young couple who were hoping to need all those bedrooms! It was perfect. Little sketchy on the timing – read incredibly nerve-wracking – but perfect. We rented in the new state just long enough to give us time to figure out where we really wanted to be without HAVING to find the perfect home to buy right now. I’m not a huge fan of renting, but it did give us several Sunday drives worth of time to decide where we felt ok and where we could afford to live. Maybe renting near your husband’s new job is a solution for a short time – say 6 months – it will give you time once you get there to really see how you feel and what areas make you feel the best and where you want to live. Just a thought – it worked for us, but doesn’t for everyone. I even was able to take some dancing lessons when we were in the rental – part of the benefits of that rental was a membership that we wouldn’t ordinarily have afforded. I had fun! Lisa

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    Oh no! I’m so sorry, Judy. My heart sank when I saw your post title, and I’m sure yours did more than that, when you heard the news. Hang in there!

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    Frieda Z says

    I am so sorry this is happening to you. I hope you find a house that is even better than this one. Maybe you need to look at a new house. You and Vince will be in my prayers.

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    I’m not sure what happened, but the words “strike 4” makes it sound like the “Monday” house is not working out. I’m glad Vince is coming home. You can regroup and head out. Take care, I’m thinking of you—

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    I think you and vince need a break from the house hunt. I know you don’t feel like you have time for a break. But maybe one day off will give you a chance to have a fresh start. I’m sorry this is so difficult. Sending lots of hugs!

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    Linda says

    how does a signed contract turn into a strike?? What a time you are having…have to say, by the time you get a house it will have to be amazing!

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    ruth anne shorter says

    Okay, yellow sheet back on fridge for now….something will develop, so hard to wait and I am praying for a home for you guys real soon.

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    Tina says

    Curse, darn, swear, foul language! As the great sage Charles Brown would say, “Rats!”

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    ANOTHER ONE?!?! That is just so stupidly unfair — and it really sounded like this was the one that was meant to be… I’m so so sorry for you. ((hugs))

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    Linda in NE says

    The deal fell through?? I just cannot believe this!! It seemed like such a great place too. I just feel so bad for you I don’t even know what to say. I don’t think there is anything I or anyone else could possibly say to make you feel better. Just know we’re all rootin’ for you.

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    Colleen in AZ says

    Oh man, so sorry. I have been trying to move also, and it’s just not happening. I feel the frustration………………………………..
    You will get through this.

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    Cindy from California says

    What??!!! NOOOO!!! How can a signed contract fall apart in one day??? The real estate market in Texas is SOO bizarre!!! Maybe you should skip living Texas and just move right to LA (just kidding!).

    I don’t know how you keep going!


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    Wish there were words adequate to express my support.

    How frustrated you must be. I can’t imagine.

    You’re both in my prayers.


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    Mel Meister says

    As the kids say nowadays.. I’m gobbsmacked! How do people get out of contracts anyway? I thought they were binding legal documents.

    You know the old saying “God never gives you more than you can handle”. If that is the case, you must be Wonder Woman, SuperGirl, BatWoman and Hillary Clinton all rolled into one!

    I’m so sorry, Judy. Words cannot express…..

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    lw says

    Maybe the Lord wanted you to move out there so that you could search for and find the new house yourself? In any case, we’re all still here, and you’re still in our prayers. Hugs!!!

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    Maxine says

    Hang in there Judy ……you will have been through worse and you are one capable lady dont forget that .

    Maxine in Aus

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    Grace says

    What a bummer. I am sooooo sorry, Judy. I imagine you are feeling very much in the dumps right now, but just know that you have a lot of us quilty friends who are praying for you to find a home soon. Hugs: (((((((((((((( JUDY ))))))))))))))

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    LisaS says

    I have been following you through this and all I can say at this point is “I’m sorry”!!! I really can’t believe this is happening to you.

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    Sandy says

    I am at a loss for words. Sorry just doesn’t seem quite adequate. We were all sure you had found a house you loved and had a signed contract. If it is something wrong about the house though, it is better to find it out now before you buy it. I am so glad Vince will be home with you tomorrow. As one suggested, maybe his company would let him come back to his old job and you wouldn’t have to move? My thoughts and prayers are with you, Judy. And……..((((((HUGS)))))))

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    What an emotional roller coaster you have been on – I hate moving and after reading your story, we might just take our house off the market – don’t have to move – just want to get a smaller place. Hopefully, something will turn up very soon once you are BOTH there to look and inspect. I know you are trying to keep a stiff upper lip – but some days are a waste of make-up and clean clothes. JC

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    Doe in Mi says

    What a dirty rotten shame. I think you have had enough of this kind of action. I’d be wrapping myself in one of those comforting beautiful quilts, sucking my thumb, and crying. I’m feeling bad for you. Prayers for sure.

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    Rebecca says

    Unbelievable. Just…unbelievable.

    I hope you have a physical outlet for your stress. I had ONE DAY of the kind of stress you’ve been feeling for months, and it sure felt good to exercise it off! (I was lucky enough to swimm in a friend’s pool…I cooled off in more ways than one!)

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    Anita R says

    I’m hoping all the positive thoughts, hugs, and prayers are making their way to you. Moving is one of the worst things to do anyways without all of the added stress you’re going through. A year from now you’ll be looking at this wondering how you got through it. Hang in there and buy something fun!

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    Elizabeth says

    Hi Judy, Keep the hunt going and stay strong. There IS a house for you…..somewhere. Liz

    PS I am so impressed that you know what you DO want in a house. I tend to find the “don’t wants” after we have bought our houses.