I remember the first time I heard Faith Hill and Tim McGraw singing “It’s Your Love“. Vince and I hadn’t been married long. He was living in Kentucky and I was still in Louisiana waiting to get custody issues worked out so Chad and I could move to Kentucky. I was in the car, on I-10 headed east from Lake Charles to Lafayette, Louisiana to fly out of Lafayette to Evansville, IN where Vince would meet me and we’d spend the weekend together. I loved that song and couldn’t wait for Vince to hear it. It seemed to say everything I felt. I still love that song and every time it plays on my iPod, I stop, listen and remember riding in the car that day and hearing it for the first time.
Now we’re at a different time in our life. Our marriage has survived some serious struggles. I know some of you think my life is a bed of roses (or maybe it was til a few months ago!) but we have our share of ups and downs. It’s real easy to get in a rut. Everything is familiar. Chad is gone . . it’s just the two of us. This move has been difficult. It was hard when Vince was back and forth in Texas and I was left in Missouri to handle all the inspections, repairs, appraisals, realtors, relo company.
I’ve never thought of divorce or anything like that. I did consider running away to Louisiana . . maybe I thought of that more than once but it would have been temporary . . only til Vince came to get me and promised to move back to Missouri. OK . . I was dreaming. That’s never going to happen!
Since we’ve been here in Texas (3 weeks, 6 days but who’s counting?), I’ve heard the song “Remind Me” by Carrie Underwood and Brad Paisley. I love that song and it “fits” just as much as “It’s Your Life” did back early in our marriage. If you aren’t familiar with the song, read the words and then listen to the song. I love it!
When I think about life, I know we have to earn a living and do some housework and those with children at home still have a major job to do but what really matters more than being happy at home? I’ve always believed that when a husband comes home from work, he should enjoy the time he gets to spend with his wife and likewise, the wife should look forward to the husband coming home. I’m not saying it’s always that way at our home but it should be, and I want it to be more often.
Why am I writing all this? I don’t know! I played Remind Me for Vince yesterday afternoon and we both talked about how true it is and how easy it is to get in a rut. This is a time in our marriage where one chapter has closed (empty nest/new location) and a new chapter begins. I want the new chapter to be the best chapter yet . . rattlesnakes, green lizards and all! 🙂 The song, Remind Me, really spoke to me about keeping my marriage happy, fun and exciting. I just wanted to share . . maybe there’s one more wife out there who needs to hear that song. Even if your marriage is the best it can ever be or if you aren’t married at all, I think it’s still a great song!