Friends have had kids move out and move back; move out and move back! I’ve told Chad that when he moves out, there ain’t no comin’ back and I mean it. I suppose there are circumstances where I’d agree to his moving back — illness, job loss due to company shutting down (not because he got his finances all mixed up). I also know that it’s easy to say he’s never moving back but when push comes to shove, I’d probably welcome him back. But for now, he thinks if he ever moves out, he’s not coming back.
Our conversation the other night went something like this:
Chad: B bought a house and he wants me to move in with him.
Me: Hmmm . .
Chad: I’m thinking I’ll go ahead and move in with him.
Me: (Trying to keep myself from running into his room and figuring out how I’d arrange my sewing supplies in there.) Just remember that if you move out of our house, you’ll no longer get the GA Tech discount that we have on our car insurance.
Chad: Well, I was thinking that I wouldn’t change my address or anything . . I’d just live with B, help with expenses but . . you know, keep my address here.
Me: (Thinking of how nice it would be to have a hot shower without timing it so the water has had time to re-heat since Chad’s 45 minute shower; thinking how nice it would be to be able to start quilting early and not having to wait til 10 a.m. or later so I don’t wake him up; thinking of all the “stuff” I could move into his room; thinking how nice it would be to have his car out of the garage and have room to put Vince’s pickup in the garage.) Just remember that once you leave, you’re not moving back! There’s no revolving doors around here.
Chad: Even if I just move in with B for a while.
Me: Yep, and remember we pay for the cell phone only as long as you live at home.
Chad: Hmmm, I’m wondering why he bought a house anyway. I think I’ll just plan on staying here til I decide where I’m going to college next semester.
As much as I’d love to have peace and quiet around here, and as much as I’d love to have that extra bedroom, I’m nowhere near ready for Chad to move out, but I think that little conversation was a reminder to me that it’s going to happen soon and I’d better start preparing myself for an empty nest.