From the comments on Vince’s retirement post, one thing stands out: Some people seriously want to be near family and some people could care less about that. I don’t think there’s a right or wrong on that subject – it’s whatever feels right to each of us.
I grew up visiting my grandparents almost every weekend. The first 20 years of my adult life were spent living just a couple of miles from my parents. Family is important to me and not so important to Vince. He never knew his grandparents. We were raised completely differently when it comes to family.
I love being with Chad, Nicole and Addie. Chad is such a fun guy to talk to. He has a great enthusiasm for life. He’s helpful and fun to be around. He loves to cook and I’d love to be able to cook holiday dinners with him in the kitchen helping. He wants to learn to can and grow a garden.
Nicole also has a great enthusiasm for life. She’s learned to quilt, knit and wants to learn the things she didn’t grow up with – canning, cooking, gardening.
Addie . . I don’t think I need to explain why I love being around that spunky little girl.
When we’re together, it isn’t like one of us is visiting . . it’s like one big family. Nicole is easy to get along with. I don’t think we’ve ever been aggravated with each other. Chad and I butt heads sometimes but we usually have our say and then we’re fine. It’s been that way with us for a lot of years and there usually are no hard feelings.
I have no idea why it isn’t important for those who don’t care to be near family. It isn’t my business. I believe we’re all entitled to our opinions/feelings and no one needs to explain anything to me.
Vince’s reasoning for not wanting to move back to Missouri has nothing to do with no wanting to live near Chad . . he just feels MO isn’t the ideal location for us. He doesn’t like the cold. I complain about it but if given the choice of living near Chad and putting up with the cold, or not living near cold, I’d take the cold. Easy to say today — it was warm. A few zero degree days and I may be singing a different tune.
Missouri taxes everything – retirement income, pension income, personal property. It’s not the most tax friendly state for retirees and that’s Vince’s big hangup. He says “I will not pay $XX just to get to live in Missouri” and, as far as economics, I can see his point.
We’re not leaving here the first day Vince retires (probably). Once we go visit Chad and Nicole a few times, and either stay with them or stay in a hotel, Vince may change his mind about moving there or visiting often. We’ll see. One thing for sure . . we don’t have to decide tonight.