This potential move to Arkansas is really causing turmoil . . inside my head and inside this house! I’m not sold on moving there. Vince is ready to go today. When we were there looking at houses, he found a two bedroom house . . an older house with white painted cabinets (which he knows I don’t want), but it had a nice shop. It was a very nice shop but no basement, no sewing room, when Chad, Nicole and Addie come to visit, we’d be short a bedroom. I was trying to be nice in front of the people (it was for sale by owner) but Vince was saying “I really like this house! What do you think?” Hmm . . I like it just fine but not for us. I didn’t want to hurt the people’s feelings but . . no! We have a list of what we want and there was nothing about that house that was on our list.
If we move to Vince’s fav spot in AR, I’m still going to be 3.5 to 4 hours from Addie. Real estate prices have gone up there and it’s hard to even buy a house before someone snatches it up. My goodness . . why does it have to be ONE town that he wants to live in? The prices are high. The houses are, for the most part, older. Lakefront houses are a bit farther out of town than Vince wants to go. We want a lot but he wants to pay way less than most are asking. I feel like I’m beating my head against a wall.
Yesterday the realtor sent us the utility bills for a house that Vince was interested in. The listing agent was going on and on about the low utility bills. It does have propane but the lowest electric bill was $180 and the highest was nearly $300. What? That is not low in my book . . especially for a house that’s supposed to be so energy efficient and has two older people living in it.
It really doesn’t matter . . I just don’t really want to move there. I like my little house where we have no utilities of any kind to pay. Granted, we invested money in the solar panels and the well or septic tank could need repairs or, at some point, we could have to pay for internet but for now, we’re in a sweet spot.
What I do want to do is buy a small house in MO, close to Chad . . close as in next door would be fine. Keep our house here . . stay there half the time; stay here half the time (plus one day!); remain Texas residents for tax purposes. Vince could go, Rita could go, Boots could go . . someone would have to feed Cat and we’d get rid of the chickens.
If Chad moves, we just sell our little house and buy one where ever he moves. We won’t have a lot of furniture or anything there . . just the necessities. There’s a whole lot less chance of them moving now that he has changed jobs.
I don’t know what’s going to happen. One one hand, I feel like I moved anywhere Vince needed to go for work so now I should have a say in where we live. On the other hand, I feel like he worked, made a good living for us, I was able to stay home and do whatever I pleased all day and now he should be able to retire wherever makes him happy. I really can be happy anywhere. I’m not worried about moving somewhere and not being happy. As long as I have internet, my knitting and hopefully sewing again some day, I’ll be fine.
I guess I just don’t feel like financially, moving to Arkansas is the right move now. We added up last night what it would cost us to live there, that it doesn’t cost us here . . water if the house doesn’t have a well (many do), electricity, internet, personal property taxes, state income tax, etc. and it’s right at $1,000/month. I just don’t see a $1,000 per month quality of life improvement but . . what do I know.
After our talk last night, Vince did call the realtor in MO about a house I had already talked to her about so . . I am hopeful . . just a little bit. He once told me “I am not buying a house in MO. I don’t care if they’re giving them away!” That makes no sense because if they’re giving them away, you don’t need to BUY it but the fact that he called the realtor . . surely that means he’s thinking about the house I found. Time will tell.
So . . I’ve just vented to you all. I don’t expect anyone to solve this issue . . someone please just tell me all these feelings are normal.