A trip to town! Didn’t I already say several times that I don’t want to have to go anywhere til after Christmas? Then I feel bad. Vince wants to go . . not every day but way more than I want to go.
He ordered some T-shirts on sale at Walmart and either they were in the store and have to be picked up by a certain date or they were sent to the store and have to be picked up by a certain date. He also has to go to town two days later this week for appointments. Did he NEED T-shirts? No! They were on sale.
Yesterday, he said “WE have to go to town either today or tomorrow.” I said . . not today. I should have said “YOU have to go to town so go whatever day you want.” This morning, he got up wanting to go to town. I just do not want to go to town. First, I do not need anything. Second, Vince gets antsy when the parking lots and the stores are crowded and short staffed and that makes me feel stressed.
Then I start feeling bad. He loves to shop. I’m his wife. I should do things with him that he enjoys. After all, he agreed to get a place in MO, furnish it, pay utilities, etc. so I can do something I want to do and he has zero interest in doing. I said “Let me get dressed and I’ll go!” He said “You don’t have to go!” Fine. I’ll stay home. And I did. Why do I feel uncooperative? Guilt or am I really uncooperative?
In my mind, I feel like since I’ve told him for 20 years how much I detest going to town, I’m not being uncooperative. It isn’t like I got up this morning and just said “I’m not going!” It would be one thing if I needed anything but we do not.
I’ve soaked the new sweater and it’s blocking. I have a load of laundry going and I’m making rolls that he requested for dinner. If I had gone to town and walked up and down every aisle at Walmart, Home Depot, Tractor Supply and Big Lots, I would have come home and accomplished nothing but . . there’s always tomorrow. I could have soaked and blocked the sweater, done laundry and made rolls tomorrow.
Dear Abby: Am I horrible, selfish wife?
Don’t answer that! 🙂